Identities are made up of a lot of things and I’ve been questioning whether I can still claim some of the titles that have been part of my identity for so long.

The most obvious parts of my identity are easy… woman, daughter, sister, boss, friend, co-worker. But they are only a fraction of who I truly am. More parts of my identity are also easy… reader, Swifty, bisexual.

In the past I have been able to claim musician, but I haven’t played an instrument in years, so I’ve let that one go. Poet, but again, I haven’t written any poetry in years, though I think that may change soon and I’ll be able to claim it again. Writer… but because I want to be, not because I am. Traveler, again, because I aspire to claim it.

But the pieces of my identity that I am struggling with are Book Blogger and Cat Mom. I am still a blogger, so I can still claim that title. But I’m not really a book blogger any longer, though I do still talk about books and share reviews. Am I any type of blogger really? Or just a general blogger?

And then there’s Cat Mom. Yes, my brother and sister-in-law still consider Cheshire mine, but he’s lived with them for so long now. And I’m lucky if I’m able to see him once a week, or once a month sometimes. And when I see him its for the cuddles and snuggles and treats. I still love him just as much, but can I still claim him as mine?